Sir Brian | BDSM in Philadelphia, PA

about me

Height: 6"3 | Weight: 180 lbs. | Race: White | Ethnic Origin: Hispanic

Build: Average | Eye Color: Green | Hair Color: Dark Brown (shaved head)

I am an independent BDSM professional, alt-sex educator, and adult entertainer in the Philadelphia, PA area. I offer a variety of services in and out of an expansive and varied space in central Philadelphia, as well as occasionally travel to Washington D.C. and New York City.

I offer discreet, private fantasy experiences with no organic sex for individuals or couples interested in BDSM, fetish, or kink, either at a private location or at their homes.

I teach individuals or couples how to incorporate new techniques in play in a teaching capacity, as well as run public and semi-public group classes on several BDSM subjects.

I take on a relationship advisor/mediator role with individuals or couples wishing to "come out" to their partners, and serve as a kink informational hub for newcomers to the scene.

I speak, teach, and perform at kink and non-kink events to help normalize the practices of BDSM and foster understanding between communities, from bachelorette parties to health conferences.

I take on informational and erotic phone calls and appointments via private NiteFlirt lines.

I used to self-produce and release video and photo content, both for My own interests and for custom requests, featuring a wide range of activities, from the pornographic to the educational.

I serve as ghost designer and consultant on a variety of kink and vanilla artistic projects in various mediums.

More info

Smokes: Yes | Drinks: Rarely | Drugs: No (420-friendly)

Waist: 33in | Shoe Size: 11.5 W | Endowment: 7.5", cut

Tattoos: Yes (5) | Piercings: Yes (3) | Hand/Facial Modifications: No

Languages: English (native) | Spanish (native) | French (native)

Knowledge: Religion & Culture | Culinary | Gaming (all)

Music: Clint Mansell | Janis Joplin | Portishead

Movies: The Duke of Burgundy | Perfume | Grey Gardens

Books: Rendezvous with Rama | Helter Skelter | Dune

Artists: Zdzislaw Beksinski | William Blake | Toshio Saeki

Service record

Current Recurring Events and Classes

I am not currently running any recurring events or classes, as I mostly stopped attending public functions after the start of COVID-19. I still can be found attending select events and parties, which can be seen on My Calendar.

I'm completely new to this and have no idea what I like/want.

As long as you are open with Me, and I can figure a few loose general interests, I will happily take on newbies and inexperienced visitors. My goal is to help people navigate these things, and I will usually work with each individual to find the best option for them. I am relaxed and approachable, both during and out of session. I promise I sound scarier online.
What's a session like?

A session is defined by each person's interests and personality, carefully crafted to be an individual experience that works within a common framework and comfort level. I do not take on scripts, so I cannot just tell you "what a session is like," as it is a personal experience. I do pride Myself on not "breaking My toys," and can be vetted for in the local BDSM community, as well as by industry professionals in at least three countries.
Wait, what do You mean "no organic sex?"

"Organic sex" means the more "traditional" activities we consider as sex, such as oral, anal, or vaginal penetration as done by our own bodies. Sessions such as anal training or cum control ("edging") are done with a myriad of toys and tools, and cuckolding sessions are done via My partner or a third-party professional. I am an adult entertainer, but I am not a rental service. While on that subject, I am not a stripper either.
I am older/in poor health. Can I still come see You?

Absolutely. I always make it a point to ask about any and all health issues a visitor may have to ensure their complete safety and well-being. My range is wide. Being older, or disabled should never stop you from being able to enjoy service or play.
I'm worried. You could be crazy. Do I get to meet You first?

I suggest that all My visitors arrive ten to fifteen minutes early to their in-call. This is a chance I get to talk with you, on a face-to-face level. Other than that, if I was dismembering people, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be in business since 2011. No, we cannot go for a coffee date to decide whether you want to book Me or not.
Sir, I'm a slave/submissive, and I would like to serve You/be trained.

I am not looking for personal service of any sort. I am a busy and private person, and in several relationships which fully occupy My personal time and emotional labor. If you wish to serve Me, then you will do so with an appointment, like everyone else does.
The tribute You demand is very high! Is there any way around it?

The tribute I demand is fitting to what I do, and is actually slightly lower than the average for those in My field. My offers are clearly stated on My tributes page, please don't negotiate with service providers. I take cash, thank you.
Wow, this is so cool, I'd love to get to know You!

This is a lie. You either want to sleep with Me, or you want Me to play with you, or you wish to benefit from My knowledge in the field without compensating Me. Stop doing this. Pay sex workers. Pay content creator. Pay artists. People who want to "get to know Me" manage to do so organically, not because of what I do. If you want to "get to know Me" consider whether you would have wanted to "get to know Me" before knowing this is what I do.