rules of engagement: ten commandments 

What is a complete list of services You offer?


I am professional Dominant, alt-sex educator, and entertainer.

  • I offer discreet, private experiences with no organic sex for individuals or couples interested in BDSM or kink, either at a private location or at their homes.
  • I teach individuals or couples how to incorporate new techniques in play, as well as run public and semi-public group classes on several BDSM subjects.
  • I take on a relationship advisor/mediator role with individuals wishing to "come out" to their partners, and serve as a kink informational hub for newcomers to the scene.
  • I can speak, teach, and perform at non-kink and vanilla events to help normalize the practices of BDSM and foster understanding between communities.
  • I take on informational and erotic phone calls and appointments.
  • I 100% self-produce and release educational, artistic, and pornographic video and photo content featuring a wide range of activities and interests.
  • I serve as ghost designer and consultant on a variety of kink and vanilla artistic projects.




Wait, what do You mean "no organic sex?"


I mean I will not be putting My cock into you. I will not be fucking or sucking or jerking anything that passes in front of Me. If this seems confusing, I suggest you contact a Dominant escort, who will very happily exchange sex for money. Sessions such as anal training or cum control ("edging") are done with a myriad of toys and tools. I am an adult entertainer and alt-sex expert, not a rental service. While on that subject, I am not a stripper either.




I'm completely new to this and have no idea what I like/want.


As long as you are open with Me, and I can figure a few loose general interests, I will happily take on newbies and inexperienced visitors. My goal is to help people navigate these things, and I will usually work with each individual to find the best option for them. I am relaxed and approachable, both during and out of session. We can take this at your pace. I promise I sound scarier online.




What's a session like?


A session is defined by each person's interests and personality, carefully crafted to be an individual experience that works within a common framework and comfort level. I pride Myself on not "breaking My toys," and can be vetted for in the local BDSM community, as well as by industry professionals in at least three countries.




I am older/in poor health. Can I still come see You?


Absolutely. I always make it a point to ask about any and all health issues a visitor may have to ensure their complete safety and well-being. My range is wide. Being older, or disabled should never stop you from being able to enjoy service or play.




I see You take Your in-calls at Destiny's Chamber. Will we be alone/Will my privacy be respected?


I assure you that during your time with Me, you will never meet another member of Destiny's Chamber, unless you have specifically requested it. Your discretion and privacy are of utmost important to Me, and you will not see any of the Staff when you come, and your identity will be protected.




I'm worried. You could be crazy. Do I get to meet You first?


I suggest that all My visitors arrive ten to fifteen minutes early to their in-call. This is a chance I get to talk with you, on a face-to-face level. I will ask any specific questions here, and you may do the same. As far as being crazy, I doubt that. I have a public real-time and online presence that has been active since 2011. If I was dismembering people, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be in business. No, we can't go for a coffee date to decide whether you want to book Me or not.




The tribute You demand is very high! Is there any way around it?


The tribute I demand is absolutely fitting to what I do, and is actually slightly lower than the average for those in My field. I must make sure that My tools are taken care of and of a quality suitable to see that they do not fail Me. I must replace My disposables and My sanitation products. There is no way around it. You may tribute Me in payments prior to your session if you find that more fitting. I also accept gifts from My Amazon Wishlist, and lower session tribute according to how much I need the item in question in the first place. I always recommend such "barter" options are discussed with Me first.




I would like to learn how to Dominate my partner. Do You teach?


I teach individual visitors as well as couples, both at home and at the dungeon. I also teach freely at the events I attend if I have time, so if you look at My Events page, it may prove helpful in finding out where I will be next. I teach recurring public classes at the Kink Shoppe, mainly on the topics of rope and beginner BDSM, and a list of previously taught workshops can be found in My Resume.




Sir, I'm a slave/submissive, and I would like to serve You/be trained.


Lovely. I am not looking for personal service of any sort. I am unbelievably busy, and in several relationships, both D/s and not, which fully occupy My personal time and emotional labor. If you wish to serve Me, then you will do so with an appointment, like everyone else does. You may also inquire about public lifestyle sessions, though I take those on rarely.




Wow, this is so cool, I'd love to get to know You!


This is a flat out lie. You either want to sleep with Me, or you want Me to play with you, or you are somehow trying to benefit from My knowledge in the field without compensating Me. Stop doing this. Pay sex workers. Pay content creator. Pay artists. People who want to "get to know Me" manage to do so organically, not because of what I do. I do not tend to play with My friends.




I can't expect to serve You frequently with Your high tribute demands!


If you come serve Me with regularity, I will consider discussing arrangements for tribute that you will find quite generous on My part. Regularity shows commitment, and I appreciate commitment. And so, I will, on an individual basis and depending on how frequently you wish to see Me, adjust My demands. You may also inquire about public lifestyle sessions.





 Frequently asked questions 

What is a complete list of services You offer?


I am professional Dominant, alt-sex educator, and entertainer.

  • I offer discreet, private experiences with no organic sex for individuals or couples interested in BDSM or kink, either at a private location or at their homes.
  • I teach individuals or couples how to incorporate new techniques in play, as well as run public and semi-public group classes on several BDSM subjects.
  • I take on a relationship advisor/mediator role with individuals wishing to "come out" to their partners, and serve as a kink informational hub for newcomers to the scene.
  • I can speak, teach, and perform at non-kink and vanilla events to help normalize the practices of BDSM and foster understanding between communities.
  • I take on informational and erotic phone calls and appointments.
  • I 100% self-produce and release educational, artistic, and pornographic video and photo content featuring a wide range of activities and interests.
  • I serve as ghost designer and consultant on a variety of kink and vanilla artistic projects.




Wait, what do You mean "no organic sex?"


I mean I will not be putting My cock into you. I will not be fucking or sucking or jerking anything that passes in front of Me. If this seems confusing, I suggest you contact a Dominant escort, who will very happily exchange sex for money. Sessions such as anal training or cum control ("edging") are done with a myriad of toys and tools. I am an adult entertainer and alt-sex expert, not a rental service. While on that subject, I am not a stripper either.




I'm completely new to this and have no idea what I like/want.


As long as you are open with Me, and I can figure a few loose general interests, I will happily take on newbies and inexperienced visitors. My goal is to help people navigate these things, and I will usually work with each individual to find the best option for them. I am relaxed and approachable, both during and out of session. We can take this at your pace. I promise I sound scarier online.




What's a session like?


A session is defined by each person's interests and personality, carefully crafted to be an individual experience that works within a common framework and comfort level. I pride Myself on not "breaking My toys," and can be vetted for in the local BDSM community, as well as by industry professionals in at least three countries.




I am older/in poor health. Can I still come see You?


Absolutely. I always make it a point to ask about any and all health issues a visitor may have to ensure their complete safety and well-being. My range is wide. Being older, or disabled should never stop you from being able to enjoy service or play.




I see You take Your in-calls at Destiny's Chamber. Will we be alone/Will my privacy be respected?


I assure you that during your time with Me, you will never meet another member of Destiny's Chamber, unless you have specifically requested it. Your discretion and privacy are of utmost important to Me, and you will not see any of the Staff when you come, and your identity will be protected.




I'm worried. You could be crazy. Do I get to meet You first?


I suggest that all My visitors arrive ten to fifteen minutes early to their in-call. This is a chance I get to talk with you, on a face-to-face level. I will ask any specific questions here, and you may do the same. As far as being crazy, I doubt that. I have a public real-time and online presence that has been active since 2011. If I was dismembering people, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be in business. No, we can't go for a coffee date to decide whether you want to book Me or not.




The tribute You demand is very high! Is there any way around it?


The tribute I demand is absolutely fitting to what I do, and is actually slightly lower than the average for those in My field. I must make sure that My tools are taken care of and of a quality suitable to see that they do not fail Me. I must replace My disposables and My sanitation products. There is no way around it. You may tribute Me in payments prior to your session if you find that more fitting. I also accept gifts from My Amazon Wishlist, and lower session tribute according to how much I need the item in question in the first place. I always recommend such "barter" options are discussed with Me first.




I would like to learn how to Dominate my partner. Do You teach?


I teach individual visitors as well as couples, both at home and at the dungeon. I also teach freely at the events I attend if I have time, so if you look at My Events page, it may prove helpful in finding out where I will be next. I teach recurring public classes at the Kink Shoppe, mainly on the topics of rope and beginner BDSM, and a list of previously taught workshops can be found in My Resume.




Sir, I'm a slave/submissive, and I would like to serve You/be trained.


Lovely. I am not looking for personal service of any sort. I am unbelievably busy, and in several relationships, both D/s and not, which fully occupy My personal time and emotional labor. If you wish to serve Me, then you will do so with an appointment, like everyone else does. You may also inquire about public lifestyle sessions, though I take those on rarely.




Wow, this is so cool, I'd love to get to know You!


This is a flat out lie. You either want to sleep with Me, or you want Me to play with you, or you are somehow trying to benefit from My knowledge in the field without compensating Me. Stop doing this. Pay sex workers. Pay content creator. Pay artists. People who want to "get to know Me" manage to do so organically, not because of what I do. I do not tend to play with My friends.




I can't expect to serve You frequently with Your high tribute demands!


If you come serve Me with regularity, I will consider discussing arrangements for tribute that you will find quite generous on My part. Regularity shows commitment, and I appreciate commitment. And so, I will, on an individual basis and depending on how frequently you wish to see Me, adjust My demands. You may also inquire about public lifestyle sessions.





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