Question 1

Be Honest

Accepted Answer

Tell the truth at all times, even if you can not or will not follow a direct order. Even if I will “never know that you are lying.” First of all, I will know. Second of all, trust can not be based on lies, and will never be fulfilling if it is. I am not a part of your outside world. I am part of your inner world, and I demand absolute honesty and truthfulness from you. What you say remains with Me.

Question 2

Be Obedient

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I am in charge and that means you will follow My orders. A servant’s heart means that My will is more important than your own and My pleasure comes before your own. Does it hurt? The answer is not important. Put Me first, and let Me take the lead.

Question 3

Be Polite

Accepted Answer

I am Sir Brian. We are not friends, so I am not "dude," "man," "bud," etc. I am actually a relaxed, easygoing person, but do not fail in your address when speaking to Me. My preferred form of address is “Sir,” and I strongly dislike the use of "Master." You will answer questions clearly, maintain proper posture, and ask permission to act. Take time to show your respect.

Question 4

Be Grateful

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Always say thank you. If I punish you, thank Me. I am taking time and energy to teach you a lesson in self-improvement. If I reward you, thank Me. I have noted your efforts and found you worthy of reward. Be thankful for what I give to you and what I take from you. At the end of the day, I choose who I interact with.

Question 5

Give Control

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If I see you regularly, we may negotiate to establish rituals and individual rules for you. They may include what you can wear, how you contact Me, or even tasks outside of your time with Me, if they are within your reach. I always respect agreed upon interests and limits, but will not accept a "script" or any topping from the bottom. Accept that, within given boundaries, you are giving up that control.

Question 6

Be Chaste

Accepted Answer

I am a professional Dominant and a lifestyler, not a BDSM full-service provider, or a "kinky companion." Though many acts are deeply erotic, sexual release or orgasm is not the end goal of BDSM or of a session, and one should not expect either of those things to be defaults upon visiting Me. Though release may be achiveved, sex with Me is not on the table.

Question 7

Be Devoted

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To you, I am a god. That means I expect to be worshiped. How do you worship Me? You obey Me. You learn about Me and how to please Me. You follow and don’t try to lead. You communicate your inner thoughts with Me. You tribute Me. You are humble, loyal, dedicated, and respectful. In short, you sacrifice for Me.

Question 8

Be Loyal

Accepted Answer

I expect you to communicate fully openly with Me. Tell Me what is going on in your life, what you are doing, how you feel. Have no secrets. Do not hide things from Me you think I do not wish to hear. I wish to know everything. Tell Me your thoughts as you would a lover or friend, and do not hide new journeys from Me.

Question 9

Be Attentive

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Your attentiveness shows your worth. Aim for spelling, grammar, and structure if you communicate with Me through writing. If you cannot string a sentence together, are functionally illiterate, give one-word answers, or seem unable of having an cogent thought process, I will decline to see you. Be well-groomed, and clean when we meet, or I will throw you out. Remember that I am also present with you in your experience.

Question 10

Accept Release

Accepted Answer

If we know each other and you wish to part ways in communication with Me, you will communicate this with Me. As long as seek My control, you give up your right to decide to just walk away without at least a conversation or message telling Me so. If the problem can not be sufficiently resolved right then, we will part ways. Your information will be vaulted or destroyed upon request, and any property returned. When we are apart, we live in separate worlds.

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