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Restructure.

  • Writer: Sir Brian
    Sir Brian
  • Aug 6, 2024
  • 2 min read

Updated: Mar 1

I've decided to change how I do things around here.


These changes are prompted by the absolute deranged path the world is taking. I won't be offering commentary on the current happenings that are happening. The horrors persist. So do we.


Starting in 2025, I will no longer be selling My videos via clipsites. I may still do some individual direct sales, but I will be removing them from public platforms. I am also no longer offering reduced rates in exchange for video content.


I've been streamlining and simplifying how I do business. A few years ago, before COVID, I deprioritized a lot of My advertising, as well as My constant attempts to always "be somewhere" or "doing something." Simply put, it was not doing well for My mental health, and was not making Me any more "successful."


How does one measure "success?"


For Me? Peace. Simplicity. A sense of presence in the here and now.

None of this spark joy.


I first started pro-Domming because I loved what BDSM and kink had done for Me. I was given an opportunity to join a budding collective, expand My skills and, build Myself professionally. But the longer I have been doing this, the more I dislike the business aspect of it. I seek quality, connection, authenticity, and wonder. And surrounded by a lot of glitzy imagery, and well-crafted posts, and what feels like a constant vibe of "buy now," I have grown disheartened.


I once heard of a Domina leaving the profession and stating that her reasoning was that there was no interest for her in submitting to money if she, indeed, was a Domme. I always appreciated and looked up to that attitude... there is nothing that drives Me to anger (and bans) than someone attempting to bend My will because they have a few extra bills they can wave in My face.


So though I had big plans (and had started the movements) towards big public expansion, it seems I am not going to be doing that at this time after all. The world is not stable, and the Universe is not aligned to this at the moment. Instead, I'm going to work on expanding this site a little bit and streamlining a few things. Additionally, I invite people to come to My Discord server, The Liminal Lounge, which I'll be finished building soon. It's just a small place, where I am attempting to build a more "intentional community" in terms of social media. I regularly broadcast a BDSM-themed film every second Sunday in the Main Theater, and will slowly be filling it with more stuff by the end of the year.


I am, of course, still sessioning and available. If anything, I got several new pieces of equipment/toys in! And I still attend some of My more usual monthly events, such as The Aviary, TWIST, and Philly Rubber Club. But you'd know that if you checked My calendar.


I hope to see you all quite soon.

 
 
 

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